If the New Year Finds You Stuck and Low Energy—This Is for you.
Where Were You This Time Last Year?
This time last year, I was in a hole. The ditch. I felt stuck. Depleted and a WHOLE lot of shame.
I was exhausted in a way I couldn’t push through… I had been pushing through my entire life (bet you can relate), holding everything together, doing what needed to be done, making sure ALL my people were taken care of, not complaining.
Head down…get ‘er done. From the outside, it looked like I had it all together. Like I was a tough cookie.
But Inside? My body was tired. I knew my nervous system was fried—totally overwhelmed.
I cried a LOT. Lots of anger. I couldn’t sleep. So Frustrated…as hard as I tried I couldn't keep that pace anymore.
I sat on my yoga mat at home, broken. Allowing myself to feel what I had spent years holding in. Supressing…because I didnt want to be an inconvenience…for MY emotions to make anyone FEEL…
The fear or
The loneliness. ALL The grief I never quite made space for.
I had ONE simple prayer…
Dear LORD… Just show me what’s next. I can not do this alone.
If you’ve ever reached that point—where pushing harder isn’t an option anymore—you get it.
I wanted SO desperately for the people closest to me to validate my pain; my emotions and when they couldn’t (Because the people closest to us- love us and are affected by our pain, it can be really hard for them to fully hold or validate our emotions without their own fears, needs, or reactions getting in the way.)
I clammed up. Supressed, felt like there was something wrong with me…
Shouldn’t I just be grateful??? Why don’t I FEEL grateful?? My body shut down.
I didn’t need was another proocol.
I needed a pause. I needed a reset.
I cut my work hours in half. Financially, it was terrifying. Emotionally, it felt like stepping into the unknown. I quit my gym membership. I learned to spend time with myself. I learned to listen deeply instead of being constantly on the go.
My body was asking for something different, and for the first time, I listened.
I formed a support team. Slowly and intentionally, I rebuilt my days with practices that helped me come back to myself: walking, breathing,prayer journaling, yoga, meditation, therapy, and coaching.
I narrowed down my priorities (and that is NOT always easy especially-even when you are a recovering people pleaser)
Not all at once. Not perfectly. But consistently.
Here’s what midlife has taught me.
In midlife, devotion replaces discipline.
We have to learn how to listen to our body.
The strategies that worked in our 30s stop working here—not because we’re failing, or doing anything wrong but because our capacity has changed. Hormones shift. Stress accumulates. The nervous system gets louder. We are becoming a different version of ourselves…
So many women just assume they need to try harder. They keep ramming their head against the SAME wall expecting a different outcome…Surely THIS time it will be different…😮💨
What they actually need is to work differently.
When estrogen declines, the buffer it once provided fades—and what we’ve been holding in has a way of surfacing. That doesn’t mean something is wrong. It means our system is asking for care.
Our bodies throw pebbles, rocks then great big boulders—ANYTHING trying to get our attention.
The high blood pressure we ignore, the acid reflux, the bloating, irritability, not sleeping, foods that we once ate without issue suddenly don’t love us back, the exhaustion the autoimmune diagnosis you just ignore because its just too inconvenient to change your life style.
This is why coaching matters.
Coaching helps you apply that awareness in real life—so your health, habits, and decisions begin to align with who you are becoming.
In coaching, we focus on:
regulating stress before forcing change
learning to read your body’s signals
build consistency without burnout
creating structure that supports your energy instead of draining it
learning to ask for help from the people closest to us, set boundaries
how to nourish your body, move in ways that support you, and meet yourself where you are.
Begin to cultivate a life that encourages longevity.
When your health is supported, your emotions begin to follow.
You’re no longer fighting yourself.
You begin to cultivate a life full of gratitude. You begin trusting yourself, your choices and you begin to become what God has had in store for you the entire time. It’s time to let go of habits and behaviors that are no longer working for you—and to release the belief that asking for help is a weakness or that you don’t have time, money or its just not worth it…
Your health is EVERYTHING. Your family, friends, church or community does not benefit from your constant exhaustion. You're OVER giving. They benefit from your health.
If you’re starting this year feeling less than optimal- it’s time to dig deeper. It not about going on vacation, or a resort…trying to “find yourself”. It’s about getting SUPER clear on how you want to age. What is it you want from this ONE amazing life?? Focusing on your EVERY DAY behaviors that leave you feeling drained.
Its time to begin again.
You are probably already starting to see it in your parents. Watching your parents age feels scary because it confronts you with their mortality, the loss of their invincibility, the reversal of caregiving roles (you becoming the caregiver), and the inevitability of their decline, triggering fears of abandonment, loneliness, and your own aging.
You get to choose…Another year of pushing, postponing, and hoping things will “settle down” or take radical responsibility for your health and get the support to help change it.
Expand your possibilities for your life!
Not extreme. Not perfect. But intentional. With purpose.
Here’s my challenge… Don’t wait for the diagnosis. Dedicate this year to you and your health in honor of your family. Show your kids, family, friends how to age well. ✨
My goal is to help bring you clarity & help you cut through the confusion & noise while offering you answers that are realistic, achievable, & easy to understand.
THANK YOU for being here…for taking time to read my story. Feel free to leave comment, or share with others! ❤️
